Dating a paraplegic woman
Despite our list there are endless things we have learned and continue learning.
One thing we can agree on and has been a major life lesson is that dating or marrying someone in a wheelchair is the same as having a relationship with an able bodied person.
Just because we're in a wheelchair it doesn't mean we can't walk a little bit.
Some of us are able to walk short distances on good days. Be patient with us, we're not trying to be difficult or insult you by turning down your offers to help us.
If you are new to the world of wheelchairs your life has probably been filled with new experiences and new information.
Over the years we have learned many things about being in a relationship with someone in a wheelchair.
'It was the most uncomfortable date I've ever been on and felt really forced.' Finally, at the end of the evening, she addressed the situation, leading the guy to admit that he 'didn't know how to talk to someone in a wheelchair' — despite the fact that they'd been getting on so well in their conversations on Tinder for two weeks.'Sometimes they would literally say something like, "Well, can you still have sex?
Unless we ask, please don't suddenly start pushing us.
Here’s our top 10 list of things we have learned from being a wheelchair spouse.
'All of that rejection based on being in a wheelchair really messes with your self-confidence,' she told
'When I first went on Tinder, I just thought, "OK, I'm a nice person, I'm not bad-looking, I've got a good career", but then I felt like I had to view myself as a disabled person instead.' She is pretty used to it by now, and has found that it doesn't stop her from having a normal, happy life; she travels, has a good job in public relations, and lives by herself.
We love spontaneity as much as the next person, however unless you know 100% that your idea is wheelchair friendly, then it's best to press pause and phone to double check first.4. Especially if we are in an older model wheelchair which has no seatbelt. If we have asked/trusted you to push us, don't ruin it by letting go down a slope; you may find it entertaining but we will get blisters trying to regain control.6. Plenty of wheelchair users take parts in sports adapted for them such as horse riding, basketball, tennis. If you have questions it's best to get them out in the open rather than dwelling on them.8. Many wheelchair users enjoy a very healthy sex life.9. They've been there for us through the laughter and tears of the previous relationship, and picked us back up from it.
We would much rather not fall out of the chair or with you! Until they see you're here to stay they'll be suspicious.10.